Do you recognize some of these ways in which your or others’ unhealthy anger gets expressed?

• Verbal abuse (yell, curse, insult, make threats, get in people’s faces)

• Emotional abuse (criticize, put down, intimidate)

• Physical aggression (hit, shove, slap, kick, choke, force sex)

• Property damage (break things, slam doors, throw objects)

• Internalization (stuff feelings, seethe, develop health problems, do self-harm)

• Externalization (blame others including intimate partners, bosses, co-workers, family, friends, the legal system)

I will help you to:

• Recognize how and why your anger gets triggered and out of control

• Identify feelings and underlying emotions

• Interrupt the cycle before it causes damage to others and to yourself

• Learn and apply skills and tools, such as relaxation techniques, mindful breathing and meditation, cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), dialectical behavior therapy (DBT)

• Learn the difference between healthy and unhealthy anger

• Learn to express important feelings more effectively and safely

• Find the motivation to choose healthy outlets such as physical exercise, writing, social activities, spiritual practices, creating strong support systems